Proof that work-life boundaries matter.

It’s harder than ever to get away from work. Technology makes it so easy to continue working beyond regular office hours. And in many ways, it’s become the normal and expected thing to do. Whether it’s through subtle messages in our workplace or the ‘hustle culture’ that’s grown over the past few years, the general belief is that those who work into the evenings and weekend are achieving more—and, as a result, will reap the rewards of doing so. But research has proven there are serious consequences when we don’t fully disconnect from work. It’s also shown that we’re better off when we do, both in our wellbeing and our professional capabilities.

While being connected to work 24/7 can make you feel like you’re on top of things and getting ahead, the data shows that “switching off” for a while so you can forget about work is more important. In 2018, a study was conducted to examine the impact of...

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How I dealt with feeling lonely in a connected world.

relationships wellbeing May 06, 2019

Over the past couple of months, I spent a lot more time by myself than usual and I learned a few of things because of it.

  • Being alone is a physical state but being lonely is a very emotional state.
  • There are ways to spend time alone without being lonely.
  • I think solitude can benefit us if we don’t allow ourselves to feel isolated.

I developed a hip injury 7 weeks ago that was very painful and severely limited my mobility, rendering me housebound. Aside from the pain, being so physically restricted was a very difficult adjustment since I couldn’t do my regular activities. As a freelance consultant, I spend much of the week in my home-office, so that didn’t change. But I couldn’t go to the gym like I normally do a few times a week, where I chat with other regulars and work out with a friend. I couldn’t do my usual grocery shop every couple of days, which allows me to interact with other shoppers and store staff. I couldn’t meet my friend at a...

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Your free will is being hacked—what are you willing to do about it?

tips wellbeing Apr 26, 2019

For the past 3 years, I’ve written about technology’s impact on our attention, time and focus. This is a concern for me because I’ve personally experienced the downsides to using technology mindlessly and missing out on some things that really matter. But I watched an interview this past weekend that woke me up to the larger problem that’s driving our distracted lives. It helped me understand the true impact of technology on the human brain and the far-reaching implications on our society and our future. The interview drew my attention to how technology is being used to manipulate our free will.

You check Facebook for a 5-minute break and end up spending 30 minutes.

You find yourself watching funny cat videos instead of doing research for a work project.

You go on Amazon to order the one thing you need and end up buying much more.

At the root of all these decisions is your free will.

Your ability to make a choice based on what you need and want—your...

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3 reasons you should treat your attention like money.

How many times have you heard the phrase “pay attention?” Too many to count I’m sure, but have you ever stopped to think about what it means? Although the expression can be traced back hundreds of years, its meaning has evolved to become more literal. The verb ‘pay’ means “to render, bestow or give” something, such as a compliment, a visit or one’s respects. But now, when applied to the noun ‘attention,’ the most fitting meaning is “to give over a certain amount of something in exchange for something else.” Which begs the question, what is it exactly that we’re exchanging our attention for? 

Given the context of the current so called ‘attention economy,’ I think we should be giving this question some serious consideration. In fact, I think we should give it the same consideration as we do when we pay money for something. Sometimes we think a lot about how much we’re spending and what...

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Witnessing the zombies among us.

They are all around us.

Among our family and friends.

At work and at school.

In our living rooms and bedrooms.

Driving cars and walking the streets,

some are more obvious than others.

But I see them.

Maybe you see them too.

 

They are trapped,

often for hours.

Lifeless and lost to us.

They’re adrift in that other world.

The one that held so much promise.

Knowledge,

entertainment,

connection,

and progress.

A better life,

we were told.

But the value it delivers is fleeting.

The consequences are not.

Diversion,

isolation,

anxiety,

and discontent.

 

We reach out,

hoping to connect with them.

They try to reply

but can’t tear their eyes from the screen.

Their attention is no longer theirs to focus.

They’re stuck in an endless loop,

one designed to hijack our minds.

They / we are digital zombies.

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3 steps to apply Marie Kondo’s ‘art of tidying up’ to your smartphone.

tools wellbeing Feb 14, 2019

Between her best-selling books and Netflix show, Marie Kondo has become famous for her “art of tidying.” If you follow her KonMari method, she promises you’ll end up feeling calmer, inspired and more joyful. Admittedly, when I read her books a couple of years ago, I found them super useful. I applied her method to our condo and I think we’ve enjoyed a tidier, more peaceful home overall.

The funny thing is that I never considered applying her method to my digital devices. But, given how much time we spend on them, I recently decided to give it a try on my iPhone. And the results were well worth it! I’m now more relaxed when using my phone and yes, even a little more joyful. So, I did the same exercise with my iPad.

If you’d like to see what tidying up your smartphone can do for you, follow these steps.

#1 – First, declutter your phone. 

Start by unlocking your smartphone and closing all your apps. Then start working your way through each...

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Nomophobia may sound silly but it’s no laughing matter.

unplugging wellbeing Jan 28, 2019

If I told you about someone who was stressed or anxious if they didn’t have a bottle of alcohol with them constantly, would you think they have a problem? What if I said they couldn’t go to the bathroom or to bed without it? What if it was a pack of cigarettes instead? Or some other socially-identified drug? Would you be concerned about their health and wellbeing?

Rightly so, I think most of us would think that person has some issues that need to be dealt with. But for some reason we don’t seem to feel the same way if it’s a smartphone that person can’t be without. Being attached to a smartphone may sound trivial but some people are willing to go to some surprising extremes to keep their phones with them at all times.

Nomophobia is shorthand for ‘no-mobile-phone phobia’ and yes, it is a real thing. The term was coined in 2010 during a research study on the anxieties of smartphone users, commissioned by the UK Post Office. Back then, they...

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Ideas for unplugging and improving your holiday spirit.

family unplugging wellbeing Dec 03, 2018

The holidays are supposed to be a blissful time of year but many people find themselves feeling stressed, isolated and sad. Our relationship with technology can contribute to this holiday malaise, given the amount of time we spend online and distracted. I wish we could change this just by saying “put your phone away and do something else” but I know that can be a struggle for some. If you find that’s the case, here are some activities that can reduce stress, strengthen your connection with others and hopefully bring you some joy during the festive season. You might need your devices to help organize some of them but all the good stuff happens offline. Happy holidays!

Wander for a While

We try to cram in so much in December that we end up racing from place to place and rushing all the time. How about taking time out for a walk? It doesn’t have to be long—10 minutes or more out of your day (or night). There should be no agenda, nothing to achieve except...

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What would you give up to keep your smartphone?

wellbeing Oct 12, 2018

Do you ever think about your relationship with your smartphone? We think about our how we interact with others, such as our partner, children, co-workers, etc. We consider those relationships often, with an understanding that they can significantly impact our health and well-being.  Just look at all the number of articles, books and services on the subject. We usually know when those relationships are good for us and when they are not. But what about our smartphones?

I’ve interviewed people about their relationship with their phones and they’ve said things like “it’s a love/hate thing", "it has taken hold of me", "I panic if it’s not with me", "I wish I didn’t need it" and "I’m highly dependent on it.” If this was a friend of yours describing their relationship with someone else, I bet you’d be concerned and want to help them. But it’s just their phone, so we don’t consider it a problem.

So, how do you feel about...

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Will the new features in Apple’s iOS 12 fix our screen obsession?

tools unplugging wellbeing Jun 22, 2018

In case you haven’t heard yet, Apple held its annual developers’ conference in early June. They announced some new features in iOS 12, which launches this Fall, that will “help you limit distractions, focus, and understand how you're spending your time," according to Apple’s SVP of Software Engineering. But how much can they really help, given our current obsession with screens?

The new features include a tool called Screen Time—a dashboard that will provide data on your iPhone and iPad usage. It will show you how much time you spend on each individual app and across various categories of apps, both daily and weekly. You will also see how many notifications you received and how many times you picked up your device. It will even allow you to set daily limits on how much time you want to spend on specific apps.

Apple is also improving the Do Not Disturb feature. You will be able to block calls, texts and notifications from everyone except your VIP list,...

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